Archive for December, 2011
It’s a fact. There are a lot of people who feel unhappy in their marriage. But the real question many of them are asking themselves is, how do I know when my marriage is really over?
Is it when your spouse says, “I don’t love you anymore?” Is it after an affair takes place? How do you REALLY know? Keep reading to find out how to identify the warning signs that often indicate your spouse has given up on your marriage.
First and Foremost: Has your spouse reached The Point of No Return?
What is the Point of No Return in a marriage? Is there such a thing? After working with couples for over 11 years, I’ve identified a specific “path” that couples travel on the way to divorce. And at the end of this path is what I call…The Point of No Return.
But I’m getting ahead of myself…let me back up for a second.
In most cases, your marriage is NOT over when:
- Your spouse moves out
- When your spouse says the infamous, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you anymore”
- When your spouse threatens you with divorce
And believe it or not, in some cases, your marriage is NOT even over when…your spouse files for divorce.
Your marriage is NOT over when your spouse begs, pleads, argues, screams, storms out of the house or turns the whole family against you.
Quite the contrary, The Point of No Return in a marriage IS confirmed when your spouse looks at you as if s/he were dead.
There is no life in your spouse’s voice and no life in his/her eyes. Your spouse doesn’t get angry with you. S/he simply tells you when the divorce papers are going to be served. S/he’s already gone to the court house, found an attorney and has a service date set for the divorce proceedings.
Your marriage is most likely over when your spouse has made complete lists of assets and debts with your both of your names on them. Your spouse has already decided on the custody plan and cleaned out any bank accounts with their name and yours and closed all the credit cards that you share.
Your spouse has reached The Point of No Return when s/he already knows the courts require a 120 day waiting period and s/he has emotionally bolted him/herself in place for the long wait.
You’ve gone WAY beyond an “unhappy marriage” when your spouse has talked many times to the children about divorce and they are now either scared, angry, hurt, confused or emotionally shut down.
There’s a good chance your marriage is over when your spouse doesn’t care about how your children feel about it. S/he is only acting for his/her own survival at this point and s/he has repeatedly convinced him/herself that “The kids are good, they’ll be fine.” S/he may have even said that to friends and relatives.
This is the REAL Point of No Return. I’ve found that when your spouse has reached the Point of No Return, no one can save your marriage at this point. Not a priest, pastor or marriage counselor.
So How Did this Happen?
A marriage gets to this point because we live in a society that is convinced that once you are married, there is nothing you need to learn about marriage and nothing you need to practice.
All you need is love.
If you don’t have love, then it’s all your fault that your marriage failed. Because of this belief, you kept on doing exactly what you always did…your version of love.
You treated your spouse the same way your father treated your mother…or vice versa. You kept on doing the same thing and kept on getting the same results.
Your spouse could not help you to help him/her. No matter how many times s/he told you how to meet his/her needs, you couldn’t hear…you just couldn’t understand.
How do I know this?
I know it because every single divorce is built on the same system. When your emotional needs are not met in a marriage, anywhere from 1-3 of the situations listed below will begin to take place in your marriage.
Because you know virtually nothing about how to be married and how to support each other’s needs, you have no way to stop these issues from happening:
- Sex failure
- Communication break down
- No Loyalty
- In-Law problems
- Grew apart
- Fell out of love
- Blended family issues
- Abusive attitudes
- Angry spouse
- No romance
- Ignores me
- Money problems
- Children problems
- Avoids me
If your spouse has not yet passed the Point of No Return, you can still save your marriage; there is still hope for the two of you. But you need to do something TODAY to improve your unhappy marriage. Believe me, I get emails daily with stories about marriages that took a turn for the worst in a matter of WEEKS.
These people simply waited too long and before they knew it, their spouse had reached the Point of No Return. So my message to you is DON’T WAIT. Do something for your marriage TODAY…before it’s too late. You can start by getting the FREE marriage advice you can use to fix your marriage at the http://www.marriage-success-secrets.com website.
Note: This article is not legal advice. It is not meant to replace marriage counseling.
I suppose that you have found the perfect bridal dress to wear on the big day but what about your bridal shoes? If you haven’t really given them some serious thought, it’s time to think again. Your shoes not only need to complement your dress, it should also be a nice fit. Unlike buying other shoes, buying wedding shoes does involve some further attention.
Many people overlook the importance on how the dress matches with the wedding shoes because they both play a critical role for each other. First and foremost, you should try on your wedding shoes together with your wedding gown. Many dresses have a long train and can be a little hard to walk in. You won’t want to trip during the wedding so you should have a good amount of control in the shoes that you choose. Give yourself a basic set of routine to try the shoes with – you should have no difficulty walking, climbing stairs and even dancing in your wedding shoes.
When it comes to heels, it’s true that high heels certainly have a particular sense of elegance and style but there are numerous fashionable flat-heeled shoes that you can choose as well. If you are not used to wearing heels but you want to wear them on the big day, make sure that you practice first by walking in them. Ultimately, make sure that you get yourself a pair of comfortable wedding shoes. A tiny shoe bite can turn into a big pain almost instantly during a wedding. In fact, wedding shoes that you can hardly fit in can result in a few broken ankles. This is an awful sight you won’t want to see on your wedding day. Hence, if your choice of shoes in due course comes down to style versus comfort, go for comfort.
If your gown is going to cover your feet and you’re absolutely sure that they won’t be seen, you can choose something that is simple yet comfortable. Some smart women have put up something as simple as a pair of white tennis shoes as their wedding shoes. If your wedding budget allows, you can also look into designer wedding shoes. There are several high-end designers that are specialized in designing wedding shoes.
However, to find your perfect wedding shoes, you should consider a wedding shoe specialist. They can be quite pricey but you can be sure that you’ll have the best wedding shoes possible for your wedding. These specialists will match your shoes with the fabric and the shade of your wedding gown. Your shoe will also be custom-made to fit your feet size. You can even request for some small accessories to be added to make your wedding shoes to be even more special and unique.
You should make every aspect of your big day as perfect as possible so it will leave good and wonderful memories to you and your family members.
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