Archive for August, 2011
In this article I am going to explain about how a friend of mine managed to get through a rather messy divorce and how she came through the whole experience a much stronger person. I hope her story helps other people who have or are going through a divorce.
My friend is called Sue and she married her childhood sweetheart called John when she was only twenty-two. Sue has explained that at the time she could not have been happier and was very much in love. She hoped and imagined that they would spend the rest of their lives together. Sue had met John when she was at school and they had been dating since the age of fifteen.
After the marriage, they then talked about starting a family and before long they were parents to two boys. Sue believed that this was the icing on the cake and left work to bring up her children.
Unfortunately things were to soon go horribly wrong. John started coming home later and later from work and Sue was at a loss as to what was going on. John of course stated that he was only doing his work and that he was working overtime to give his family a better life, especially as Sue was no longer working. In reality John was having an affair with a woman he had met at work.
After a few months Sue found out about the affair and asked John as to why he had seeked the attention of this other woman. He replied that Sue had been the only woman he had slept with and that he felt that he had missed out on the experience of dating other people. Despite the fact that Sue was willing to forgive John, the relationship was soon to end as he moved in to live with his other woman.
Sue was obviously very upset and could not believe what was happening to her. Before long divorce proceedings were under way and Sue decided to put the family house on the market and returned home to live with her parents, the boys of course went with her.
This was a very depressing time for Sue. One day however she was walking through her local shopping precint and saw a group of handicapped children. Sue thought to herself that the situation she was in was only temporary and that she would eventually be happy again, but that these children would more than likely to be handicapped for life. This strangely enough helped Sue to gain the strength and to think positive about the future.
Sue is now re-married and is once again very happy, she still hates her ex-husband however. Sue has learnt a lot from her experience of getting divorced and tries to think in a much more positive way. She has realised that there are many people in the world in a far worse position than what she is in.
Do you remember when you used to dream about how wonderful it would be to get married? Of course, marriage is wonderful…but not all of the time. There will be times when marriage will seem like hard work, and there may even be times when leaving will look like a nice option. Marriage can have it’s ups and downs and a successful mariage is only possible if both parties are prepared to work at it. Love must be nutured if they want to keep it from going stale.
Has your marriage gone stale? Have you stopped spending the time that is necessary to cultivate a relationship that is fulfilling? If this is the case – read on. Here are 8 tips that could help make your marriage go from boring to infinitely fascinating.
1. Forgive.
Disagreements are only natural in any relationship. Wherever their are two people living in close proximity there are bound to be times when they disagree. Learning to forgive and not hold grudges is vital if they are to prevent bitterness from seeping in and souring things. People make mistakes and do stupid things. We need to be quick to say sorry, and quick to forgive. Married couples must never harbor grudges. Besides, harbouring grudges solves nothing.
2.Be respectful and honesty with one another.
Don’t take one another for granted. Learn to say thank you. Express your appreciation for the things your spouse does for you. Tell the truth. If there is a problem talk about it, don’t bottle it up. Couples who face their problems and talk things through are the ones that are most likely to build a strong, loving relationships.
3. Remember to laugh often.
The daily grind of life can make everything seem like a chore. A married couple should take time to share jokes and other crazy antics to decrease tension. Remember, laughter is healing.
4. Communicate.
It may seem obvious, but good communication is the key to a fulfilling relationship. Don’t let things fester. If the wife is feeling upset by something her husband has said or done she should tell him right away, she shouldn’t assume that he will guess what is wrong. What may be obvious to her, may not be obvious to him! Husbands too need to be more forthcoming in sharing what is on their minds. Good communication is vital.
5. Decide together.
It is important that couples make joint decisions on things like finances, children’s education and upbringing, delegation of household chores, etc. One must not be superior over the other. If you can’t reach agreement straight away, leave it for a while and come back to it again later. If there is still a stale mate, be prepared to given in to your spouse. Take turns in giving in to one another. Marriage isn’t a competition
6. Don’t forget the simple, small things.
Husbands need to remember to compliment their wives. Don’t forget to praise her for a job well done. Buy her flowers. Take her out for a romantic meal. Tell her how beautiful she is. Make her feel like she is your princess. Wives, should also be attentive to their husband’s needs. Enjoy each other’s company. Showing affection one for another is essential.
7. Stay in love
Nurture your love for one another. Enjoy every new discovery and every new day with your spouse.
8. Stay intimate.
Intimacy is only able to grow in a marriage where their is a strong commitment to one another. Learn to be honest with one another about what turns you on and what turns you off. The sexual side of marriage needn’t wane. Greater knowledge of your spouse and deeper affection, should make love making a celebration of your life together. Make time to be intimate.
Being married is not always easy. Especially in our society where so many marriages fail. But as long as both partners know that they have each other to hold on to, it should be a rewarding relationship. Be there for each other, “for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and til death do us part”.
Online Dating Magazine has now made public online dating statistics that the site had previously reserved only for journalists and reporters. The statistics are revealing. For example:
> According to Online Dating Magazine there are 280,000 marriages a year as a result of people who met on an online dating service.
> The two “giants” in the online dating industry are Match.com and eHarmony.
>5% of all Internet users have paid to use an online dating service.
You can read all of the statistic at http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/onlinedatingstatistics.html
