Archive for March, 2011
World over in February young couples celebrate Valentines Day with laughter and promises of undying love. The celebration knows no barriers and whether 4 or 80 years old, people with hope treasure the phrase “Will you be my Valentine.”
Mid- Feb heralded in ancient Rome, the coming of spring and even in pre-Christian times people celebrated a “fertility” festival with great joy. Much later the festival celebrated on Feb 14th was in honor of St. Valentine who is believed to have signed a letter to his beloved on his death bed as “from your Valentine.”
Red hearts, beautifully wrapped chocolates, balloon bouquets, and so on flood the markets and most young men are in a quandary as to what will make a “memorable gift.”
Here are a few ideas to set your creativity rolling:
1. Abandon all ideas of dinner in a crowded restaurant where couples will be jostling for space. Plan a special “time for two” either on a patio over looking a garden or on a boat sailing down a moonlit river or sea. Choose to pack a picnic basket with foods that triggers off memories. For example perhaps the two of you had enjoyed chocolate donuts one day, or a pizza with toppings both love, or a cookie specially baked by you. Take along music or compose a song to sing to her. Serenade her like knights used to on bent knee.
2. If you have gathered many pictures or video clips of your time together then put together an album with specially written captions and a witty heading. You could even say “this gamine grimace enchanted me,” be original and let your imagination and sense of humor take wing.
3. If you are going to be away on Valentines Day meet online for a special chat. Make it a cyber date—the World Wide Web will close up the distances.
4. Avoid the run of the mill activities and plan to go to an amusement park or fair. Have a rollicking time on the roller coaster.
5. If you know of a movie she has been dying to see –get it and plan an evening enjoying the film.
6. If she loves gizmos get her a digital camera or video phone.
7. Don your apron and chef’s hat and cook a special meal.
8. Pamper her by gifting her a session at a spa she loves.
9. Plan a weekend get-away and take her somewhere special.
10. Pot a special plant for her. One that will grow and bloom along with your relationship.
Valentines Day is special so consider something unique. Most people will not have the spirit of adventure in them and try something different. They feel safer going with the crowd and presenting their love with cards, red balloons, hearts cut out of red paper or fabric, Godiva’s chocolates, or a dinner in a favorite restaurant. Dare to be different and you will be remembered.
Online dating services have revolutionized the old concept of dating. Instead of going out in a blind date with someone whom you barely know, more single men and women choose online dating services instead. The most common kind is called free online dating services. Because the services are free, the common question that a prospective online dater would ask is, are these sites secured?
Online dating services are fast becoming an important classification of internet websites. But just as things have changed and evolved, scammers and con artists have also been “modernized.”
In these modern times, almost everything can be accessed by anyone. With news on internet hacking and copying, you can’t help but feel unsafe. More so if you need to reveal some personal information. This explains why, despite the booming industry of online dating services, there are still quite a number of people who are hesitant of joining.
Internet sites which provide dating services have now been made more secure by the service providers themselves. Before deciding on joining a particular dating service provider, see if they have privacy policies. It is important that any details that you give be kept confidential at all times. Sites which ask for several verifications before giving access to information are generally safer than those who don’t.
One good thing about this kind of dating service is you don’t need to disclose any credit card number. Because you don’t need to pay for anything, there is therefore no need to disclose the same. If someone pretends to be from the company, then contacts you and asks for such information, don’t tell anything. Chances are, they are scam artists out to get your money.
Because these sites are for free, there are more members than in paid sites. This being so, members are most likely to belong to different backgrounds and financial status. That is why you should be more cautious in choosing the people that you respond to. Check their profiles well. If you see anything suspicious or somewhat deceitful in their profiles, you can then avoid communicating with the person. Some sites even allow the blocking of messages from other people.
The downside of free sites like this is the presence of spam emails and unsolicited offers. Never respond to such emails and erase them as soon as possible.
Once you’re in, take time to get to know the person before divulging particular details. Take things slow and give yourself some time. Only when you’ve developed a closer, more intimate relationship can you give details on your real name, workplace, contact numbers, and others. In your conversations with others, be careful so as not to disclose any of your particulars.
In meeting the person for the first time, choose a public place. Do not agree on meeting somewhere private like his place or a friend’s house. Tell a friend of your whereabouts – who you’ll meet, where and when.
If you want to try online dating services, then free online dating services are the way to start. This way, you are able to test the waters without having to spend much. As to the question posted in the title, these sites are relatively safe. Just remember to take the necessary precautionary measures of online dating. The important thing to remember is you have a hand in securing your own safety.
Technology has always been there to make lives of people easier. In fact, thanks to technology the world of emotions has also been conquered. Don’t try to think dirty here folks. What I’m talking about is the love connection that can happen through online dating sites and chatting rooms or software such as ICQ, MSN or MIRC.
Thanks to these websites and chat software people have been given a better chance to find their partner. This is because people are given the chance to be connected wherever they might be. All different cultures and walks of life are able to meet with a simple click of the keyboard. In short a person has got a better chance to meet his or her partner because of the greater number of daters. It is also easier to meet people online thanks to online date sites and chat rooms.
After chatting for a while and getting to know one another, it would be natural to meet. It would be a pretty shallow relationship if both of you are happy to be forever just chatting. Both persons may just be really looking for someone to talk to.
Finding love through the internet offers the two sides to get intimate right away. This is because it is easier to be yourself when chatting online. Just imagine that you can say anything stupid and you won’t see the other person thinking that it’s corny. Instead most chatters, even though you are pretty corny just type LOL (laugh out loud).
Because of the perception that you have built about yourself and the other person, meeting them becomes very hard. This is because of the perception you have given to him or her during chatting could not be really you. Both of you will then have higher expectations of who the real person really is.
Another problem that online chatting could present is the confidence of a person. Since it is easier to talk online, a person who is very shy or timid may have a hard time keeping up with who he or she really is. The person instead is like living both worlds.
When also meeting for the first time after long periods of chatting that could last in the wee hours of the morning, is being able to adjust. Both of you would have to figure out that it would be harder to talk on real life because of certain other factors involved. You are now both able to see the person’s mannerisms. This will be the toughest part that you would have to overcome. Once you have gone past this, the rest will be easier.
It is suggestible though to meet sooner rather than later. When meeting earlier at the chatting stages, this prevents both person having higher expectations. This also helps both parties to decide right away whether they are just better of friends or continue to develop the relationship. This helps both parties prevent disappointment and heartaches.
