Archive for January, 2010
When you join an online dating service, you are looking for a girl that you can like…even come to love. That girl is looking for a guy that SHE can like or even love. What you aren’t looking for is a girl who would like your best friend or your idea of what the perfect guy looks like or talks like or thinks like. So, in order to find the right girl for you…and she IS out there…you need to be completely honest with yourself about yourself when writing the online profile, during the dating process and beyond.
The best way to begin writing your profile is to carefully analyze your past relationship (s). What was right? What was wrong? What things really made you like the last girl? Which didn’t? Don’t assume that just because you hated that your last girl was so totally self-involved that she couldn’t see anything else, you’ll be able to overlook that quality this time. You won’t.
If you aren’t 6’1” with a six-pack to be proud of, don’t claim to be. If you are a bar tender, don’t claim to be a lawyer with a six figure income. If you are 40 going on 50, don’t pretend to be 30 something.
Remember, the idea here is to find a girl who will like you exactly like you are. If you have lied in your profile, the first face-to-face meeting will remove all her doubt that you are a liar…and probably a cheat, as well.
Lastly, once you have found a girl that you believe can be the one for you, for goodness sakes, cancel your membership to the online dating service. After all, you know and she knows that online dating services are intended for those who are looking…not those who have found or been found.
A couple of popular online activities are sharing recipes and bidding at auctions. And both of these easily fit well into online dating opportunities, one of the most popular online activities for singles today.
To help many dates get better acquainted online, here’s what potential cyber-dates do.
Sharing Recipes – People get tired talking about the weather. So a popular subject to turn to is food. Sharing favorite foods and recipes helps break the ice and even forms friendships over culinary skills – or lack of – and tastes. Search your favorite search engine for “free recipes” to share. Take photos of your culinary creations and share them with your date, too.
Bidding at Auctions – Ebay auctions sell nearly anything and everything! So surf around and enter searches like the dates you were in middle school. Share cool memorabilia photos of old games and toys from when you were a child or when your parents or grandparents were little; The Dating Game, Oscar Mayer wiener whistles, The Partridge Family Album, Bobby Sherman’s Album, 45’s and more.
Online dating can be an educational and fun experience. So learn more about each other and have fun while you’re at it. Take a cyber-stroll down memory lane together and see what’s cookin’.
It’s hard enough to have a fun and enjoyable date with someone nice and decent. It’s twice as hard to go on a date with someone who’s not only nice and decent but whom you share a common faith with. The thing is, you rarely find someone whom you might like in your church or prayer community. That is how Christian dating services come to exist.
There are many reasons why people join these sites. While most people seek to develop a serious romantic relationship with others, there are some who join these sites to find a prayer partner or to develop fun friendships with people whom they share common beliefs and interests with. Whatever your reason is, the good thing of meeting someone through these websites is Christ’s presence in your relationship. As your relationship grows, so does your faith in God. That, alone, is reason enough to join these websites.
The mechanism is simple. You register by filling out a form, upload a picture, and have your own mailbox. Once you’ve completed registration, you may then see their catalog or database. Here you are able to see members. You can make particular searches by age or area, depending on your preference. You can then send messages to people whom you might want to meet or pursue. If they respond, then it can be the beginning of something.
There are basically two types of these sites – free and commercial. Free sites do not ask their members for any charge. As for these commercial sites, they may or may not allow free trials for a short period. The prices of these sites differ as well. These are some things that you would have to consider in choosing a website.
What else should you consider? First, make sure that it is private and safe. Avoid sites which ask you to post your real name, address, work information or other personal information for other people to access. There are also some sites which personally pre-screen their members. This gives an assurance that a real person is on the other side and not a mere “ghost” or con man.
What other services do these sites provide? Aside from matchmaking services, they may also post relevant information such as safety dating tips and general dating advice. They remind you to be careful in giving out personal information, to get to know the other person more before agreeing to meet personally, to choose a public place in case you decide to meet. Who knows, the other person might turn out to be a serial killer or stalker.
Some sites also have forums or chat rooms where members can interact. This is also another chance to find interesting people, as you are able to converse and exchange views with them. They may also include other features such as bible commentary and testimonials from members.
Christian dating services are the “in” thing nowadays. While nothing beats the traditional way of approaching someone and asking for her or his number, in today’s fast-paced world, the internet is also another way to meet and get to know people. As long as you are open to new ideas, these dating services can actually work for you. So why don’t you give these sites a try. Browse through them and see if they work for you.
